AITA: ‘She won’t attend the wedding and it’s all your fault’ : Entitled Lady Unfairly Demands Sister Pay For Her Daughter’s Wheelchair Rental Fee, Leading To Family Dispute

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Eleonora Bader
Feb 23, 2023 7:00 PM EST

Family weddings always lead to drama, one way or another. This time, a woman took to the r/AITA subreddit, seeking Redditers' opinions about her 'selfish sister' who was getting married, and picked a venue that wasn't up to par with this woman's expectations regarding wheelchair accessibility. See, the woman's daughter had disabilities, and the wedding would be held at the beach, in the sand. That is not exactly wheelchair friendly…

To be fair and even out the playing field a little, it's important I mention that the venue did in fact have the option to rent a wheelchair that is designed specifically to endure sand — this option came at the cost of $110. This woman simply didn't want to pay it. Commenters came to her sister's defense, and after careful inspection, it's not hard to see why.

Scroll down to give it a read. For more, check out this tale of petty revenge — one man's neighbor threw porridge all over his car because he wasn't parked in the 'right spot'.

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    Font - Posted by u/throwaway_formia 16 hours ago AITA for calling out my sister for not making her wedding accessibility friendly for FAMILY
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    Font - For context, I (34F) am a single mom to my daughter Mia (8F). Mia has been disabled since the day she was born and needs wheelchair assistance and constant care whenever she is awake. I absolutely love her to d and it's only been us during this entire journey, so I'm definitely super protective of my little girl.
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    Font - I also have a sister Cassidy (28F) who just called me about the logistics/plan for her wedding in six months to her fiancé Max (27M). She said the wedding was going to be at a beach near our city, and it will completely be held in the sand: basically a 35 person ceremony right by the water followed by a bonfire and barbecue also in the sand. She said she just wanted to let me know before she sent the official invite because of Mia.
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    Font - I truly have never been more shocked and disappointed in my sister. You would think she would at least check in with me before she reserved the beach space because Mia obviously can't come. And now she's only telling me because it's set in stone and there's nothing she can change. I tried
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    Font - explaining how hurtful this is to Mia because Mia loves her auntie, but she'll be absolutely heartbroken not being able to attend the wedding. It's already so difficult raising a child with disabilities without a partner, but when even family is this inconsiderate and cruel, it's truly the worst feeling.
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    Font - Cassidy immediately started deflecting saying her and Max checked to make sure the beach had a sand friendly wheelchair for me to rent ($110/day) ... the audacity to ask your guests to be paying just to make it to the event (especially when she knows I cannot
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    Font - afford this). Then she said how she will not change the location because her and Max met on this very beach and it has been their dream ever since to get married here after they also got engaged here.
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    Font - When I suggested she pay for the rental, she kept saying how her and Max already had to cut so much out of their budget and plans because they also can't afford much. Like you're already paying for a whole wedding, but can't afford a rental for your FAMILY
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    Font - to come? I was talking to some moms of children with disabilities and they all agree that it sounds like Cassidy doesn't even want Mia there and is using all of this as an excuse. I'm thinking about just telling her that we won't be attending her wedding and supporting a person who's inconsiderate to her own family.
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    Font - stannenb 15 hr. ago 2 Pooperintendant & 10 More [68] she said how she will not change the location because her and Max met on this very beach and it has been their dream ever since to get married here after they also got engaged here. So Cassidy and Max picked a location for their wedding that has a deep emotional meaning to them.
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    Font - her and Max checked to make sure the beach had a sand friendly wheelchair And ensured that there were accommodations that would allow Mia to attend. When I suggested she pay for the rental,
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    Font - So this dispute is really "My sister won't pay $110 for a wheelchair for Mia to attend." YTA. 47.2k Reply Share
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    Font - TrueJa sWhisperer 15 hr. ago YTA Your daughter is not excluded. They checked for a wheelchair option. Your life may revolve around your disabled daughter, but you can't seriously expect your sister's to. She's got her own life to live. Reply Share 17.5k
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    Font - jake20071982 - 14 hr. ago A lot of guests forget that the wedding is about the bride and groom not about the guest. It looks like the sister forgot about this one 4.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Fromashination. 13 hr. ago Not to mention that most eight-year-olds wouldn't give a tinker's toot about not being dragged to a wedding no matter how much they liked their aunt. OP can either pay up or shut up. 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - stoopidsheeple 15 hr. ago Sigh. I hate to say this, but YTA. Sorry, but they want to get married on this beach and this day is about them. They checked to make sure there was a beach accessible wheel chair that could be rented, so Mia can come. As her parent, it's your job to make that happen if you want her to attend.
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    Font - It's THEIR WEDDING. Not yours, not Mia's. However, if you believe that she's truly doing this because she doesn't want Mia there, then you should obviously choose not to go. But it's not HER responsibility to pay for your daughter's needs. 11.2k Reply Share
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    Font - pokemonprofessor121 - 14 hr. ago Or get a sitter and enjoy being an adult without your child at a wedding. How many nights out has this single mom had? Enjoy the wedding in the beach! When we were kids my parents treated weddings as date nights. 2.7k Reply Share
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